Who is really on your side?

Before I begin, let me clarify – I am most definitely not in support of indiscriminate ‘feedback’ or brash outspokenness in the name of ‘Honesty’. I am a firm believer in 
"Satyam bruyat priyam bruyat, Na bruyat satyam apriyam;

Priyam ca nanrutam bruyat, Esha Dharmah sanatanah"

(Speak truth in such a way that it should be pleasing to others. Never speak truth, which is unpleasant to others. Never speak untruth, which might be pleasant. This is the path of eternal morality, sanatana dharma.) 

That said – it remains true that it takes wisdom to even interpret words and intentions correctly.

Have you seen Runaway Bride? If you have , do you recall the scene of the Luau, where all of Maggie’s friends make fun of her past ‘almost weddings’ and our friend Ike is the only one who stands by her. He rises and makes a sharp toast pointing her family’s unkindness; the audience is shamed, if only for a minute. And yet, Maggie loses her temper with Ike! Somehow, that isn’t surprising at all despite the obvious contradiction. It is odd that most people would gladly be at the receiving end of constant raillery and assume it to be in the spirit of ‘fun’. If instead, you tried to have a heart to heart with them and endeavored to make them see how they could keep from being a joke, they’d be much offended. Apparently, all the pointed jokes can be ignored because somehow they are not ‘real’. But in a sincere conversation, you’re making them see the ugly truth and urging them to do something about it. Nobody likes that! So, basically Richard Gere taking a stand in that scene made all of Maggie’s issues ‘real’.. because someone chose to see them and acknowledge them. Until that point she could just have laughed it off and assumed everyone forgot about it. I got thinking as I was recently Ike (though I’m sure I’ve been Maggie at some point).
Do you think you have been on either side?